Gender Politics

Almost everyone asks if we will find out before the birth whether we will be having a boy or girl. No, we say, we want to be surprised. However, Lucy is convinced the baby is a boy, but I am equally sure she is a girl. Since I am sure the baby is a girl, I have been thinking a lot about raising a girl. How will I help instill confidence in her while a large segment of our culture tries to teach her the wrong values (e.g. her value--and every other woman's value--is in her looks while men are judged on what they accomplish)? I have been thinking about what steps--both big and small--I can take to do more than offset the effects of our sexist culture. And if I am wrong, and the baby is a boy, how will I teach him the same ... and to be a feminist?